Love is Evil Backwards (Evol)

"Liking is for Cowards" by Jonathan Franzen

"To go through a life painlessly is to have not lived"

"And love, as I’ve been trying to say today, is where our troubles begin."

"1)    Sooner or later, for example, you’re going to find yourself in a hideous, screaming fight, and you’ll hear coming out of your mouth things that you yourself don’t like at all, things that shatter your self-image as a fair, kind, cool, attractive, in-control, funny, likable person. Something realer than likability has come out in you, and suddenly you’re having an actual life."

"The Wedding Toast I'll Never Give" by Ada Calhoun

"In Zen Buddhism, meditation helps practitioners detach from the cycle of desire and suffering."

" I love this person, and yet she’s such a mess. And yet when I’m sick, he’s not very nurturing. And yet we don’t want the same number of children. And yet I sometimes wonder what it would be like to be single again."

Love is about sacrifice. Love is not like but it is love. It is its own thing. Basically if you are feeling attached to something so much that this somethings pain becomes your pain, then you are probably in love. The first thing you need is a passion, something only you enjoy. You have to enjoy this so much that it is a part of you. When someone thinks of you, they should think of that thing. If Joe loves painting and Mary loves Joe, then It would be right to assume Joe equals painting. When thinking of Joe the idea of painting should come up. Similarly, when Mary's name comes up the first words I would say to her would be, "Hey Mary, how's Joe ;)." To love is to feel pain just as much as to love is to live. If a person does not feel any pain in their life they are not living, rather they are avoiding it. Also, if you have never lived then you have never loved. This is confusing but if you love then you feel pain and if you feel pain then you are living. To like something is to conform to something. People say love is evil but truly liking is evil. Society has manipulated the word like to being something a person needs to have. If society likes brand names then you most likely will too. Liking forces you to change to look better in front of others. Loving on the other had causes you to merge into what you are passionate about. In other words love causes you to change for yourself and like makes you change to impress others and make yourself likable to society's standards. When the better option is to make society allow you to create your own standards. 

To learn to love and enjoy life is not difficult at all. The only real steps are to find something you are passionate about and really enjoy doing. Next you do or try to pursue whatever it is that interests you. It is that simple. Why waste your time liking something when you can just go straight ahead and love it.